A brief explanation

Many of you may have noticed yesterday I said I was going move blog and direction well I ll explain why and why from time to time I get upset about three years ago I got a couple of nasty comments on the blog I trashed them since then I have been getting semi regular e mail of what one must say of a rather nasty nature basically implying that a )I am stupid b )this blog isn’t worth my time or readers time and c )I know nothing , and many fat nasty things beside that ,well I used open them think why and just leave it so as has been point out I can be sensitive yes when I ve been u set this pressure I tend to get upset well i have been getting this every week sometimes twice a week fir last three years i ve no idea why this person has taken against me .anyway an e mail came with the line how is winston and not notice it was from someone i didn’t know opened it,well yesterday I’ll not say what was in It but it was bad and made me think that’s it fuck them why should i have to put up with this ,but no why should I back down .I hope that by showing they haven’t won even thou they thought they might have yesterday . I expect they’ll be another mail soon but it will now just be binned unopened .I hope this explains my actions over last few years I feel happy now I have said something .The blog carries on regardless .i just hope I haven’t open floodgates to more abuse but I had to say something people think I m bonkers and I am not .

37 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Travellin Penguin - Pam
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 10:04:03

    I find the behaviour you describe absolutely unnecessary and cruel. I remember you writing you have dyspraxia. I worked with people with dyspraxia for many years as a speech pathologist and I completely understand your frustration. I follow your blog religiously and absolutely love it. Sure there may be a grammatical error but hey I see that in all the blogs I read. The blog is about the book and your love for the books you write about. I would try to get this email blocked somehow if you can. The people who follow you won’t like this crackpot you write about anymore than you do. Stay strong and keep writing. You do an excellent job and I have learned more from your blow than all the other blogs I read together. I even look for translated works now when before I didn’t. Sorry I go on a bit. If you’d like to chat more you can contact me at psbparks at ymail dot com. Don’t give up. The idiot you write about obviously doesn’t have as much in his/her life as you do and must be insanely jealous or just a total nutcase. Pam

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  2. kaggsysbookishramblings
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 10:12:06

    This is really horrible and you shouldn’t have to put up with this. Like Pan says, blog the email or put it in spam and ignore it – there are idiots out there and you are writing your blog from your love of books which is all that matters.

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  3. Anne Marie
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 10:12:09

    I love your blog and really look forward to receiving your updates. It is very sad that this obnoxious person is sending you nasty messages, but remember you have many,many fans.

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  4. sophiecussen
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 10:29:14

    Don’t ever listen to negativity, you have thousands (by the look of it below) of readers who follow your blog because you do have something to say and it’s a great read. I am one of those. You’ve taught me so much about new books and novels. What you blog is very unique and extremely informative. Anyone who says different is just narrow minded, selfish and more than a bit jealous of your blog success I would imagine.

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  5. naomifrisby
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 10:42:36

    Stu, I’ve just asked my other half about this as he’s a bit of a computer boff. He says to take the IP address from the email and use an IP reverse look-up on the web. It’ll tell you who their ISP is and you can report the abusive behaviour to their ISP via their website. They should then do something about blocking the emails.

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  6. Parrish
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 10:50:14

    May I apologise before I start for my language, but.
    Don’t Let the Fucker grind you Down! Sorry for that now normal service shall resume. You should be able to block that individual via your settings unless they use multiple addresses & as stated above you should be able to track the individual via the isp.
    Best regards
    Parrish

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  7. Desperate Reader
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 11:01:18

    Sorry to hear you’ve had to put up with that sort of crap and hope you find a way to block them. It’s totally unacceptable behaviour.

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  8. Tony
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 11:11:35

    Some people obviously have too much time on their hands (and too few brain cells to know what to do with it…).

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  9. Lisa Hill
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 11:34:40

    Stu, I have emailed you privately to show you how to block this person…

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  10. Mel u
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 11:39:41

    Stu, your blog is one of my role models. Don’t let some moron get you down.

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  11. mary mayfield
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 13:03:19

    That’s awful. Don’t let them get to you but hopefully you’ll be able to block them in future.

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  12. Rebecca
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 13:35:48

    So sorry: I had no idea this was going on. I just saw your photo on Twitter of a non-translated book and thought you were ready to read something else for awhile. Good luck blocking the email, and please keep blogging.

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  13. Claire Thinking
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 13:58:59

    Sorry you’ve had this trouble Stu, reading your blog was one of the inspirations for me taking up blogging. Hope you are successful in blocking this person, please keep going!

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  14. upkerry11
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 14:01:08

    I only discovered you recently and it is on of the only blogs I subscribe to and read regularly. I hope you moderate comments and, as you say, delete the nastygrams unread. S/he will go away once s/he realizes they get no traction or see the light of day. Carry on! It is an endeavor well worth the effort. Thanks.

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  15. Guy Savage
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 14:31:27

    Stu:

    I don’t know if you have the time to read this but this is written by crime author Max Allan Collins who recently received some very nasty e-mails

    http://www.maxallancollins.com/blog/2013/03/05/when-i%e2%80%99m-64-%e2%80%93-i-mean-65%e2%80%a6/

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  16. Heather
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 15:07:16

    Hi Stu, I echo others who agree that you do a terrific job and have introduced me to so many wonderful authors in translation.
    I suspect that your country has laws againsit bullying and hate crimes. you could forward these emails to your police and let them deal with this bully/criminal because that’s what he/she is.

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  17. Richard Shea
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 15:14:19

    I don’t comment as often as I should here, but please know that your blog is one of only a handful I read at every new post. I’ve come to discover many great books through this site. It must be tiring to deal with the negativity, and perhaps discouraging, but do know that you have enriched my reading life with your reviews on many books I otherwise would have missed.
    Anyone can be a jerk behind the keyboard, and this anonymity, or indirect contact, has given rise to an odious subset of internet users, people too cowardly to offer criticism or insult to someone’s face, and so take it out on someone else on the internet. I can almost stomach a jerk who insults, but the spineless troll is beneath even the most base contempt.
    Keep it up. Your blog is wonderful.
    Your faithful reader in the Twin Cities,
    Richard

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  18. pocketapocketaqueep
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 15:36:51

    I don’t know what to say to that given that I follow you on Twitter but, having ADHD and, therefore, limited reserves of concentration and productive time, don’t regularly read your blog or indeed any other (I try to spend what little time and concentration I have on books, as I’m sure you’ll understand), but sad to say I’m unsurprised at this from my own experience that people try to pick holes in anyone’s armour if they believe there’s a way in. If you come across as in any way vulnerable, whether because of a chip on your shoulder or a feeling you yourself have that you are in some way undeserving or not entitled to being somewhere or doing something, they’ll chip away at that. F#*k them. The times I have read your blog, I’ve been inspired and, as is usual for me who struggles to get through a novel of any length, intimidated by your ability to do so. Their reaction to you or their having taken against you bears no relation to how good you are at what you do or how intelligent they are, only to their own personal imbalance whatever that might be (could be a genuinely problem, could be just a nasty, aggressive personality). Either way, don’t let ’em in. It doesn’t mean you have to be some swaggering Hemingway hero type. That would be to let them win another way. Nor that you shouldn’t get upset by this vicious cowardly malice. That’s impossible without damaging yourself in the process. Just don’t doubt your right to be here doing what you do well. And yeah, that f#*ker, whoever he is, is a criminal.

    I’ll echo some of the above comments (which I have admittedly barely skim read for reasons I’m sure you’ll understand), by saying that what I have read of your blog has put me on to writers I didn’t know of and which I (quixotically, I admit), hope to get round to at some point in the future.

    Keep it up!

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  19. afictionhabit
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 15:46:21

    People can be vile Stu, and you are doing the right thing by not letting them beat you. The others have said it really, you can ignore it or shame them, but it is a testament to your standing amongst fellow bloggers that you have had so many supportive comments. I love coming by here to see what you are reading, please carry on and don’t let one idiot stop your great work!

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  20. Brian Joseph
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 17:53:57

    Sorry to hear about this stuff. On top of obnoxious nastiness the internet really lends itself to cowardly behavior.

    It is great that you have attitude of not letting whoever this is intimidate you. As other commenters have mentioned you have TONs of folks who come here to enjoy your blog.

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  21. amanda
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 18:31:36

    I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve been forced to deal with such nastiness, Stu. I don’t comment here very often, but I do enjoy reading your posts and learning about so many books and authors I’d never hear of otherwise. (And being reminded that there are so many countries out there I have yet to explore in literature!) I hope that getting this off your chest (and perhaps some e-mail blocking) will help you feel better and that you can return to enjoyment of your reading and blogging.

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  22. Emma
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 19:10:48

    I’m so sorry this is happening to you.
    I hope you’ll keep on blogging. Who’s going to write about all these foreign writers?

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  23. Claire 'Word by Word'
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 20:00:42

    I hope you manage to put a stop to this, it is so unkind, when all you put out there and give is wonderful, thoughtful reviews bringing a whole new world of books to us all. Don’t let anyone change that or take it from you. Good luck and know your work is valued and appreciated.

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  24. pennypoet007
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 20:35:56

    Hi Winston, hang in there. I have several websites & you don’t want to see the nasties that I get from insane, cruel people. It is disheartening. Some are downright viciously scary. I have built an attitude of “focus on those I know who respond to me kindly, sanely, gently, nicely.” Make a mental eraser and wipe those mean ones out of your world. Keep walking forward past the horrible toads. Everything you do, I am telling you now, is wonderful and thoughtful and interesting to many good people.

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  25. pburt
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 21:09:09

    Winston, your blog is one that I count on and your perspective into literature is unique in the blogging world. Please don’t let nasty, ill-informed people get you down. Just know that the rest of us are in your corner willing to hold your metaphorical pearls.

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  26. Jennifer Wallace
    Apr 14, 2013 @ 21:18:43

    Hi Stu, I just wanted to add a message of support to the many below. I regularly read your blog and love reading all of your reviews and the fact that they introduce your readers to translated fiction. Keep up the great work!

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  27. Sarah
    Apr 15, 2013 @ 10:06:58

    Please keep blogging Stu. Your site is a must read for me. Try not to be too affected by other people’s opinions. The e-mail says far more about the writer than it will ever say about you. I can see some people have offered to show you how to block the e-mail. I think this is a very good idea.

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  28. Jackie (Farm Lane Books)
    Apr 15, 2013 @ 10:57:45

    It is so sad that people are so cruel. I love your blog! I hope you can block the messages and enjoy writing your blog again.

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  29. Gavin
    Apr 15, 2013 @ 23:38:06

    Stu, as others have said, don’t let the bastards grind you down. Your blog is a model for so many. You’re not bonkers, you’re brilliant.

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  30. Diane Challenor (@CynthiaBlue44)
    Apr 16, 2013 @ 05:02:28

    I just want you to know I’m out here reading your blog and being influenced by it in a positive way. I’m saddened to hear that you are experiencing such bad behavior. There are so many people who want to destroy what is good in the world. Keep on keeping on. Best wishes and thank you for your blog.

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  31. Louise
    Apr 16, 2013 @ 08:05:33

    I just want to add a message of support here. I’m truly astonished and distressed that anyone would do such a thing to you! Anyone can see you are intelligent. We all appreciate your blog so much, particularly me. I hope you are able to block the ass and continue on. I guess the more well-known you get, the greater chance you come across the occasional nut case. (Sigh.) Hugs to you and A. Please do carry on!

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  32. JoV
    Apr 17, 2013 @ 10:27:02

    Put a block on these people Stu and don’t let them bother you. It is amazing what you read and the above support you get testify to this.

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  33. BookerTalk
    Apr 04, 2014 @ 07:56:47

    Hope this behaviour has now come to an end or you were successful in blocking the sender. What a pathetic individual they must be to spend their time abusing others. Glad to see you have kept going regardless.

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  34. Mytwostotinki
    Sep 16, 2014 @ 11:40:35

    Having received similar mails myself, I know how it feels. It made me angry first but when you think of it from a more philosophical point of view, I feel just pity for people who waste their time by belittling or insulting others who create something valuable for no obvious reason. After all I suppose we are blogging for those who are interested in literature and with whom we might have an interesting discussion about books. The trolls can be a nuisance but should not be taken too seriously.

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